Dating a man ten years older than you
Ultimately, my boyfriend and I have concluded that our love is too deep, intense, and “once-in-a-lifetime” to let it go.There are days when the weight of it all leaves me immobilized, sad, and unable to focus on anything.I went through all of the issues in my head thinking, Sometimes, I'd actually pick fights out of insecurity, just so I could utter the lines, “Maybe you'd be happier with someone who for certain has all of her eggs,” or, “Perhaps, you want someone who isn’t on a timeline of starting a family.” I am not a “cougar," the horrible label given to women who date younger men.When the roles are reversed and an older man dates a younger woman, the men are often congratulated and revered.
Before I realized the depth of others' judgments about our “taboo” relationship, I first had to get over my own insecurities about being with someone over a decade younger.
We've had to ask if it's worth listening to other people’s opinions to potentially give up the best relationship we have both ever had.
It amazes me that even as the world seems to be progressing and we're now openly embracing many life choices, most of us still aren't comfortable with age differences in relationships.
My boyfriend and I are not immune to the effects of these judgments.
Just a month ago, we had to have talk about whether or not we should stay together or break up — simply because of the pressure put on us from hearing so many critical opinions about our relationship.I remind myself that no one can predict the future.